Author Archives: JayZee

The Happiness Bubble

We spend our entire lives trying to be happy, doing the things we think will “make” us happy and acquiring the things advertisers tell us will bring us happiness.

But happiness is not something you get from acquiring or doing stuff. Happiness is where you come from, what’s been called your “ground of being”.

I could be Canadian or I can be a Mexican or I could be American and I’d think of myself as a Mexican or a Canadian or American and it would shape how I thought of myself. I wouldn’t necessarily think, “I’m John, the Mexican”. I’d just have Mexican-ness as part of my unseeable worldview. It would be where I come from.

In the same sense happiness is where you come from, it’s not what you have or do.

I bet that most happy people don’t think of themselves as happy people, they just ARE happy.

I’m often kind of an unhappy person – serious, droll, sarcastic, and kinda closed-down. That’s just where I have come from, the “bubble” in which I exist. But I’d rather live in the happy bubble.

The bubble is not real. If you grow up in Canada, it doesn’t occur to you to ask, “Is this Canadian-ness what I really want?” You don’t even know the Canadian-ness exists. It’s just the way things ARE. Like wearing sunglasses, after you get used to the sunglasses, everything looks normal, not sunglass-y.

So the question is, can I simply choose the happiness bubble? I’m accustomed to the unhappiness bubble. Can I just … change bubbles?

Stay tuned…

The better question…

Rather than ask, “who am I?”, I’d rather ask, “WHAT am I?”

I don’t believe I’m my past, or my memories, or my feelings. I don’t even believe I’m my thoughts about myself.

I think I’m a part of some universal consciousness, wrapped in meat. I’m not the meat. I’m something much more than that.

So…WHAT am I?

If you were my brother or sister…

This is what I would tell you about joining a network marketing company if you were my brother or my sister.

Brother_And_Sister_by_Graz_D“Since you’re considering joining the network marketing profession there’s a few things that I’d like to share with you.

“As you know I’ve been in and around the MLM profession for about 35 years. I have done pretty well in a few and failed miserably and others. Sometimes it was the fault of the company, but more often it was my own responsibility–I didn’t choose wisely and I didn’t have the skills I needed to succeed.

“So as you consider joining a network marketing company there’s a few things I can share with you I think will make a difference.

“First, find a company you can fall in love with. It’s like any other relationship-if you don’t really, truly love the person you’re with it won’t last long. You need to find a company that has values that are similar to yours and that you won’t be ashamed tell your friends about.

“Find a company that has a mission you think is important. It’s important because there will be times when you want to quit. If you have a feeling that what you’re doing is important, that passion will draw you forward to produce great things.

“Next, you have to represent a product you think is worthwhile. If you’re telling people about your product and you’re not really 100% confident that they’re worth the money, you’re ripping people off. Never jeopardize your integrity. It takes a lifetime to build reputation but only one bad decision to ruin.

“Remember that when you find someone to join your company you have a grave responsibility to them. They’re putting their future and their dreams in your hands and if all you’re trying to do is make a few bucks by signing them up, you are misleading them. You have to provide them with the tools they need or else they’ll fail. So it’s important to join a company that has high-quality tools and training so that you can help others succeed.

“It’s ultra-important that you get people started the right way. Most people who get into MLM have never owned a business before. They have unrealistic expectations about what they can achieve in the short-term and they underestimate what they can do in the long-term. So you have to know what’s possible and realistic, then you need to gently help them understand the same thing.

“If you’re just getting started in network marketing, you must know the difference, so find someone who can help you with that.

“Choose a sponsor who won’t let you off the hook. If you really, truly want to succeed in MLM you have to have a burning desire. But you also have to have an upline who keeps blowing on the embers of your desire when they dim. Find someone who has the skills and the compassion to help you get where you want to go. Even if they have to show you some “tough love” once in a while.

“As someone I care about I’d tell you about “my” network marketing company to see if it’d be a good fit for you. The name of the company is LifeVantage. If you join me, I can help you get where you want to go. Use the form below to contact me.”